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      October 3, 2017Being a Girl in My Father’s HouseMeghan Bechtel

      My dad used to wander the house in
      shiny little speedos and
      satin robes hanging mostly open—
      a Rust Belt Hugh Hefner
      with a beach ball belly.
      To say he enjoyed his notoriety
      is understatement—he bathed, gloried, fondled,
      slathered himself in the buttery lotion of
      emancipation from puritan oppression,
      declared himself a free thinker and read the magazines
      for the articles.
      I used to page through that stack,
      sober, thinking how to fold myself
      flat and glossy and mute
      like all dad’s moon-eyed girlfriends
      when they were new-minted.
      I didn’t need Hef to tell me I was
      disposable, like paper, or youth,
      I already knew that,
      but Hef made me smarter than
      all those thrown-away women
      who forgot to stay on the page,
      who eventually chose to breathe and yap.
      Hef taught me how to hide
      in that cupboard behind the stereo,
      how to stay quiet, and kept,
      and to only pull my skin out for certain occasions,
      hung like a mannequin in a shop window,
      to light up the reptile brains of
      passing men who might
      show me my reflection,
      prove that I existed—that I wasn’t just some vampire
      sucking life that wasn’t mine.

      from Poets Respond

      Meghan Bechtel

      “When I logged into Facebook last Thursday, the first thing I saw on my newsfeed was a joke from my comic friend Adam Cozens: ‘If there is any justice in the world, #HughHefner will be buried in a box in the back of your stepdad’s closet.’ I laughed out loud, then saw on the sidebar that he had actually died, and felt a little bad because it’s not nice to laugh over dead people. But Hef played a larger-than-normal role in my childhood and adolescence. My Dad was always quoting the magazine, and the joke made me think of our giant stash of Playboys hidden in plain sight in the cupboard in the living room, and all the ways Dad’s and Hef’s attitudes about women shaped me and my beliefs about myself and the choices I made. I’m actually working on a memoir about life with my Dad, which is probably why this poem came so easily (see what I did there?). Maybe I should write the story in poetry, it’s much more efficient.”